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Last night as I was getting my feet rubbed by my Husband, I was sitting there wondering. How do other couples make their Marriage work? How do they keep it fresh? Make time for Sex with kids in the house that never sleep? See my Husband and I have some very quirky but effective methods for both us getting what we want. It's the BJ's for Back or Foot Rubs Method. It is simple. When my husband wants a BJ for de-stressing purposes or to help him sleep, that is all BJ's that are not a part of our regular sex, then I get a Back or Foot Rub in return. Yes I could ask for sexual favors in return, but I could also go in the other room and take care of that myself, I can't however rub my own back. I came up with this plan and it is brilliant. This way we both get to relax and are both happy. This also works for shopping, say I want a pair of jeans but they are $300.00 or more then my hubbie gets a BJ in return. See men are simple or at least my husband is. I hear my women friends complain that their husbands want BJ's and they don't want to give them. I tell them you are looking at this the wrong way. First of all you have to change your thinking from Omg I have to give him a BJ, to ok cool he gets a BJ now what do I want in return. It could be anything, from back rubs, to shoes, to a night off from the kids. Most men will agree to anything when a BJ is on the table. There would be a lot more happy marriages out there if people went with this Method. Just be sure to get yours first. See if you give him a BJ first then he is useless, and /or will give you a weak ass rub. But if you make him go first, then he will do a great job, see he's in a good mood because he knows a BJ is coming, and he will rub your back or feet very well hoping you will do just as good a job in return. See simple. My Method works, try it out sometime, it becomes a fun little game and best of all, it's a win, win...

Why Can't We Have It All...

Why is it that being a Wife and a Mom isn't enough? Why do we feel the need to be SuperMom... Can we really have it all? Is there such a thing as enough hours in a day? I am a Wife, a Mother, a Business Owner, a Daughter, a Sister, an Aunt and a Friend. All of these titles are important to me, even though I always feel like I am doing all these jobs half way and where does this leave me? Can you really be all of these things to everyone else in your life and have enough left over for yourself? I struggle with these questions everyday. I want to be the kind of person that can do it all, I really do. There just isn't enough time or enough of me to do them all correctly. So I pick the most important, which is Kids, Husband, Family of course. Then the rest of it a lot of the times get put on hold. Most of all I get put on hold. Now that I am working again it is a whole new struggle, and a whole new me. No longer am I a stay at home Mom. You have no idea how weird that feels, and how guilty I feel for not being here all the time. My youngest son Nolan is taking it very hard and every time he calls me begging me to pick him up from his Grandma's, my heart breaks. Am I causing some kind of lasting damage that I am not aware of. My Mother worked all the time and I hated it, which is a big part of why I stayed home with my kids all these years. I didn't want to miss out on getting to see them grow up, I didn't want someone else telling me stories about all of the wonderful things they did each day, I wanted to be there and see it for myself. Even though there were many times I wished I was at work, being a stay at home Mother is the hardest job in the world. Going to work is so much easier in comparison, so am I taking the easy way out? Does he understand that I am doing all of this for him so that he and his brother can have a better life? Can a 10 year old fully process that? The fact that my oldest son Xander is so content to stay with my mother is just as heartbreaking. Granted Nolan has always been a Mama's boy and Xander has always been close to his Grandma, which I always really liked. Now though that I don't get to see him as much I admit I do get a bit jealous every now and then. Can we as Moms ever really have it all? I don't know, but I will keep trying my best everyday, and hope that for now that is enough...

Silent Night

It's creeping up on 4 a.m. Sunday morning, and I can't sleep. It has been a rough couple of days. It started with Friday, which was the day from hell and I had one of those wonderful Mommy Meltdowns. Saturday was just crazy busy, my stepdaughter is with us this weekend and any time there is 3 kids instead of the usual 2, the hyper level gets bumped up to 120%. So right now I am just enjoying the quiet house, watching the movie that I want to watch and eating my red vines without kids and dogs begging for some to. It is quite peaceful. Nolan and Molly are asleep on the couch, looking so calm and innocent. Such a beautiful sight. I love to watch my kids sleep, I can't believe how fast they are growing up. It is a lil scary but also exciting. Part of me wishes they could of stayed little forever, in a blink of an eye their childhood is going to be over and they will be teenagers. It is heartbreaking for me, it has gone by so fast. I see so many kids trying so hard to grow up before they are ready, acting far beyond their age and watching their parents feed into it. Not me, I let my kids know everyday that they should cherish their childhood and I fight constantly to make sure they do. Because it is over so quickly and you never get it back, they have their whole lives to be adults. I know that childhood can be hell, kids are so mean to each other at that age but like I always tell my kids. Childhood is supposed to be hell, it is preparing you for life. Life just like childhood isn't fair, and most of the time it makes no sense, but it is all how you look at it that matters. Cherish each moment good and bad, because they are only there for a second and then they are gone forever. Embrace the good and learn from the bad. Now I need to take my own advice...